Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Christians say ... Don't force gay agenda on them ........ lol

Jamaican Christian advocates say a gay activist being awarded a free flight to Jamaica by JetBlue Airways represents another example of international influence being used to push the acceptance of the homosexual lifestyle on to Jamaicans. Oh these stupid folks, so the woman must not come to Jamaica or be given a gift by an airline? ....... these groups when they cannot or do not see other atrocities around them including their own pastors who sexual abuse children; yet they find time for stupidness.

Didn't Blaine and company at their Half Way Tree bring in foreign support so called rally for rescuing family life when really it was an antigay activity; but due to strong criticisms of their hypocrisy and selectivity they reframed it at the last minute; I wonder who payed for those flights or accommodation for those guests of theirs?

Anyway

here is my last post on this blog on the stupidness: Perception of Jamaican LGBTQ lobby bullying continues

What about the hundreds of LGBTQ people who either pass through our borders or visit Jamaica, they must be stopped too? ........... I mean sheesh already!

Last week, JetBlue Airways announced, via its Twitter account, that an American gay activist and singer, Jus Moni, had been awarded a free flight to Jamaica to support the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender(LGBT) community in the island.

The female activist from Chicago is scheduled to arrive in Jamaica this week. On her social media pages last Tuesday, she said she wants to build a connection with black gays and lesbian youth in Jamaica.

However, the move has not gone down well with some Christians in Jamaica.

"There is an international push, not just from America, but several other foreign countries that are trying to force the normalisation of homosexual behaviour in Jamaica," noted Shirley Richards of the Lawyers' Christian Fellowship. LOL is this a joke as to the 'normalization' as if sexual orientation is some foreign virus or entity but I am not surprised ignorance is a hell of a thing eh.

While the singer and activist is welcomed to come to Jamaica, Richards said she needs to respect the views of the majority of Jamaicans towards the LGBT community.

Founder of Hear the Children's Cry, Betty-Ann Blaine, expressed similar views, adding that she wants to meet with the activist. To do what she did not say I guess to suggest reparative therapy that everywhere else is running away from as they have come into the realization that it is counter-productive and does not cure anybody.

"It is out there that we are homophobic, and I reject that. We are a Christian society. We aren't attacking homosexuals. In fact, when you hear of cases that homosexuals are killed, they are killing each other," added Blaine. Oh so the wall of disbelief from one or two cases is now being used to dismiss other legitimate matters; I tell you these people are something else but she has been on that line for some time now.

Remember her big gay lie foolishness?: Betty Ann Blaine on the big gay lie .......... 2012

Blaine stressed that Jamaica is not 'anti-gay', instead she said the country is 'pro-God'.

"We will not support same sex, or repealing the buggery law," Blaine said.

Oh boi god help these folks I tell you.

We need help too as some of us claiming to be activists have contributed to the wall of disbelief and hardened positions by ignoramuses we now have to contend with. Poor crisis communication is the major one as several non-homophobic matters have been paraded as homophobic without benefit of proper investigations and clarity in presenting the facts as they are for to strengthen credibility.

Miss Blaine is obviously playing on the perception out there to make herself and her insignificant New Nation Coalition party some visibility alongside Jamaica CAUSE etc. Here is a vox pop from the Jamaica Observer on what persons perceive of "gay murders"

the wall of disbelief is further aided by talkshow hosts such as Joan Williams on Power 106FM:

also an interesting Facebook exchange on her profile some time ago with a LGBT community member that reveals much disturbingly:

And she finds it offensive when the AGFC (antigayfactcheck) called her an anti-gay activist?

We are still reaping the worldwind I fear from poor advocacy as I hinted to in this older podcast:

So they say young bud nuh know storm (young birds do not know the effects of a storm) so let us see when this will ever end or will this continue to be a tit for tat struggle.

Here she was among others in their paranoia over marriage equality and lobby credibility:

also see:

After catching midway a radio discussion on the subject of Jamaica being labelled as homophobic I did a quick look at misconceptions and the long held belief in Jamaica by anti gay advocates, sections of media and homophobes that several murders of alleged gay victims are in fact 'crimes of passion' or have jealousy as their motives but it is not as simple or generalized as that.

That Buggery Law (UK 1533), Grief & The Ill-informed 2015

GAY & BISEXUAL INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE, HOMOPHOBIC INCIDENTS & CRISIS COMMUNICATION

Reported homophobic cases: January - October 2015 (Gay Jamaica Watch)

Lawyers' Christian Fellowship's hypocritical stance on CCJ but keep Buggery Law! 2015

Tabula Lingorum, et al are examined to determine the early signs of the law in the making as adopted by other parts of Europe and a 1376 reference.

listen the 1st take HERE: That Buggery Law (UK 1533), Grief & The Ill-informed 03.10.15

Peace & tolerance indeed required.

H

suggested previous podcasts:

J-Flag Says It Wants More Done For LGBT People

Health Minister Says Boldness Needed to Change Buggery Laws for HIV Prevention Work to be Effective

Foreign Affairs Minister says Govt should be cautious on gay rights issues in Jamaica

Holiness, hypocrisy and homosexuality …Pastors and the buggery law debate

CVM TV @ Sunrise on the Buggery review & JFLAG's 100 days hope for meeting with PM

Health Minister Ferguson on WAD '13 & FBOs fear of a Buggery repeal with future parachuted gay marriage

Promised Conscience Vote on Buggery in Jamaica was a fluke

PNP’s Bobby Pickersgill differs on Conscience Vote route to decide on Buggery Law 2013

Church defends Buggery Law ... 2013

Buggery Law challenges & overlooked judicial solutions 2013

PNP's Damion Crawford says it's highly unlikely buggery review will happen .....

PNP Wins ................Hope for LGBT People ??? 2011

International Conflict Resolution Day 2015

Each Year some parts of the globe celebrate Conflict Resolution Day, the third Thursday of October. October has become a time to promote and celebrate peaceful conflict resolution practices worldwide. Dedicated dispute resolution practitioners are helping to educate the public about mediation and other innovative conflict management processes. The American Bar Association ABA declared the third week of October, “ABA Mediation Week,” in part building on the efforts of many other national, state, and local organizations in the USA, including the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR) www.acrnet.org/crday which have been celebrating conflict resolution during the month of October. The ABA and ACR, as well as numerous other organizations worldwide, are working to raise awareness of the importance of mediation and conflict resolution.

History
In 2005, in order to increase public awareness about conflict resolution and its many benefits, ACR’s Board of Directors adopted a resolution designating October 20, 2005 as Conflict Resolution Day or the third Thursday in the month of October. ACR coordinated its efforts with other conflict resolution organizations and reached out to local, state and international groups to build interest in holding local celebrations in conjunction with Conflict Resolution Day.

Each Year ACR celebrates Conflict Resolution Day the third Thursday of October. This year is it October 15, 2015.

The logo of the tree was designed as a symbol to celebrate growth in Conflict Resolution. The first year, start small, but just like the tree the seeds you plant one year, will continue to grow and blossom each year.

Conflict Resolution Day was conceived in 2005 by ACR to:

Promote awareness of mediation, arbitration, conciliation and other creative, peaceful means of resolving conflict;
Promote the use of conflict resolution in schools, families, businesses, communities, governments and the legal system;

Recognize the significant contributions of (peaceful) conflict resolvers; and

Obtain national synergy by having celebrations happen across the country and around the world on the same day.

Locally:

http://www.disputeresolutionfoundation.com/

Upon last checks at our local arm on conflict resolution agencies - Dispute Resolution Foundation they were silent on the matter of the day's recognition or activities yet again, but of note are some of their services which includes:

Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR):
Court connected
Workplace/business
Family and community
Schools /colleges etc.
Restorative Justice
Mediator certification
Caribbean programmes

Conflict Resolution Skills:
Building the Skills That Can Turn Conflicts into

Opportunities

Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. Learning how to deal with conflict—rather than avoiding it—is crucial. When conflict is mismanaged, it can cause great harm to a relationship, but when handled in a respectful, positive way, conflict provides an opportunity to strengthen the bond between two people. By learning these skills for conflict resolution, you can keep your personal and professional relationships strong and growing.
Understanding conflict in relationships

Conflict arises from differences, both large and small. It occurs whenever people disagree over their values, motivations, perceptions, ideas, or desires. Sometimes these differences appear trivial, but when a conflict triggers strong feelings, a deep personal need is often at the core of the problem. These needs can be a need to feel safe and secure, a need to feel respected and valued, or a need for greater closeness and intimacy.
Conflicts arise from differing needs

Everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, and supported, but the ways in which these needs are met vary widely. Differing needs for feeling comfortable and safe create some of the most severe challenges in our personal and professional relationships.

Think about the conflicting need for safety and continuity versus the need to explore and take risks. You frequently see this conflict between toddlers and their parents. The child’s need is to explore, so the street or the cliff meets a need. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting exploration becomes a bone of contention between them.

The needs of both parties play important roles in the long-term success of most relationships, and each deserves respect and consideration. In personal relationships, a lack of understanding about differing needs can result in distance, arguments, and break-ups. In workplace conflicts, differing needs are often at the heart of bitter disputes, sometimes resulting in broken deals, fewer profits and lost jobs. When you can recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs and become willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate understanding, it opens pathways to creative problem solving, team building, and improved relationships.

Conflict 101
A conflict is more than just a disagreement. It is a situation in which one or both parties perceive a threat (whether or not the threat is real).

Conflicts continue to fester when ignored. Because conflicts involve perceived threats to our well-being and survival, they stay with us until we face and resolve them.

We respond to conflicts based on our perceptions of the situation, not necessarily to an objective review of the facts. Our perceptions are influenced by our life experiences, culture, values, and beliefs.

Conflicts trigger strong emotions. If you aren’t comfortable with your emotions or able to manage them in times of stress, you won’t be able to resolve conflict successfully.
Conflicts are an opportunity for growth.

When you’re able to resolve conflict in a relationship, it builds trust. You can feel secure knowing your relationship can survive challenges and disagreements.

How do you perceive conflict?
Do you fear conflict or avoid it at all costs? If your perception of conflict comes from frightening or painful memories from previous unhealthy relationships or early childhood, you may expect all present-day disagreements to end badly. You may view conflict in relationships as demoralizing, humiliating, dangerous, and something to fear. If your early life experiences also left you feeling out of control and powerless, conflict may even be traumatizing for you.

If you view conflict as dangerous, it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you go into a conflict situation already feeling extremely threatened, it’s tough to deal with the problem at hand in a healthy way. Instead, you are more likely to shut down or blow up in anger.
Healthy and unhealthy ways of managing and resolving conflict Unhealthy responses to conflict: Healthy responses to conflict

An inability to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person

The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person

Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions
Calm, non-defensive, and respectful reactions

The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment

A readiness to forgive and forget, and to move past the conflict without holding resentments or anger

An inability to compromise or see the other person’s side

The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing

The fear and avoidance of conflict; the expectation of bad outcomes

A belief that facing conflict head on is the best thing for both sides

Conflict resolution, stress, and emotions

Conflict triggers strong emotions and can lead to hurt feelings, disappointment, and discomfort. When handled in an unhealthy manner, it can cause irreparable rifts, resentments, and break-ups. But when conflict is resolved in a healthy way, it increases our understanding of one another, builds trust, and strengthens our relationship bonds.

If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won’t be able to understand your own needs. And, if you don’t understand your own needs, you will have a hard time communicating with others and staying in touch with what's really troubling you. For example, couples often argue about petty differences—the way she hangs the towels, the way he slurps his soup—rather than what is really bothering them.

The ability to successfully resolve conflict depends on your ability to:
Manage stress quickly while remaining alert and calm. By staying calm, you can accurately read and interpret verbal and nonverbal communication.

Control your emotions and behavior. When you’re in control of your emotions, you can communicate your needs without threatening, frightening, or punishing others.

Pay attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the spoken words of others.

Be aware of and respectful of differences. By avoiding disrespectful words and actions, you can almost always resolve a problem faster.

Certainly in the LGBT community and advocacy we are woefully lacking in this regard, I am not aware of any direct interventions or collaborations with the above mentioned entity locally, judging by their stance I doubt they would take in LGBT issues seeing they also have a focus on family life which by our standards exclude same gender loving people. The 2011 impasse between the homeless men who have sex with men men (MSM) populations and two main NGOs comes to mind so easily that serve this community as deteriorating relationships over the years are unresolved and who also have MSM on staff serves to remind us in glaring terms the failings, one would have expected that barring the absence of any frontline services for the men and their registering their upset at same via two days of civil disobedience On August 23 and 24 2011 at the gates of Jamaica AIDS Support for Life (JASL) and Jamaica Forum for Lesbians Allsexuals and Gays (JFLAG) that an intermediary would have been brought in.They were supposedly banned for rowdy behaviour.

Neither The Crisis Intervention Manager for JFLAG nor the Executive Director of the same group could console the men in 2011 and it had to take influentials who were apart of both organizations to quell the fracas yet we are asking the mainstream to be tolerant of same gender loving persons and embrace their right to freedom to express same love. Gay on Gay violence is also still a major challenge especially in the MSM communities as a recent incident has brought to bear as well where a prospective Miss LGBT World 2011 got herself in an altercation with a known enemy so to speak at a recent party the brawl halted proceedings for some time post the tussle she has been disqualified from the event, all this without very little attempt to have some intervention to quell the long standing disagreement between the parties.

Fast forward to present we still see fights at parties, intimate partner violence and such. we still get reports of stoning of offices by angry persons that are kept hushed for fear of embarrassment yet no end seems in sight in settling this old issues.

Let us be reminded of the case of the eye gouging male who in a jealous fit blinded one eye of his partner which made national news to the humour of many and the case drag on the courts for some time despite the victim's attempt to have the charges dropped.

So, clearly some sort of interventions are needed in this regard.

Peace and tolerance

H

Man threatens woman for attempting to steal his woman

So another one of those stories/report of threats and violence meted out to a woman all because she is close to another woman so much so that the male partner though not a steady one finds it necessary to seek, find and attack the accused woman (who is the victim in this matter) as she goes about her lawful business. I am still at a lost as to why some men do not get it as they have some ownership of women and indeed partners on a whole be they male or female. If one knows or strongly suspects a partner maybe bisexual why would one get upset if said partner just socializes or goes further with a same gender partner? In the old language switch-hitting would be applicable here but as my last post showed that term is now a seen as a stigmatizing one.

A woman 25 years of age of a Portmore address was the subject of threats and subsequently tracking and abuse by a man known as Kevin Johnson aka “Baddi” who hails from a West Kingston address. According to an incident report on August 18, 2015 around 10:30am the woman received a phone call from Baddi issuing a threat in his own words “anywhere him buck me in town he’s going to box mi up cas mi a sadamite n wa cum try look him woman.” (Anywhere he finds me in town [Kingston city itself] he is going to slap her in the face because she is a sodomite and is trying to take his woman) Apparently the relationship was on the verge of ending with him and the third party and in what seems bitterness as his soon to be loss status he retaliates with threats.

The threatened woman took no action at first assuming it was hot air and empty words but six days later at a location I have been asked not to disclose in this entry in Kingston 3 while conducting business alongside the other woman the perpetrator appeared at the same location conducting business as well at the establishment where he made a purchase by the cashier; she ignored him and proceeded to tend to her activities; seven minutes or so later according to the victim she was approached in a surprise confrontation by Johnson as he reigned blows to her head, face and neck and uttering words to the effect she is a sadamite she fi dead mi a try sex him woman n mi ago get gunshot etc (that the accused snatcher is a sodomite and she is to be killed for trying to have sex with his woman and she is going to get shot for it); he then left in a huff, though shaken the woman continued her activities to save face then left the area.

She proceeded to make her way to the City Central Police precinct where she made a report, she was handed a medical report form and told to seek medical attention then to return with it for filing requirements which she dutifully carried out and met; they filed the returned medical report which listed the minor injuries to her face and hands as she blocked some of the blows and then launched a search party in pursuit of the accused Johnson. He was not found on the initial search party efforts and the victim has since curtailed some of her movements so as to avoid any further clashes with the perpetrator. The police are said to be monitoring the situation and still in pursuit to question the suspect.

Sadly the insecurity of our men these days where they feel threatened by another party of the same gender is still real and there are several other such reports mostly unconfirmed but as we say in Jamaica ‘if it nuh go suh, it near suh’ (if it doesn’t go as reported it is just as close to the truth) This is on the backdrop of a culture of accommodating lesbians especially butch perceived ones or studs (labels used deliberately for this post) for not only liking their company but using them as access or go between for more feminine sisters (the nuff gal in a bungle culture) (lot’s of girls in a bundle culture) but when there is romantic interest involved on the man’s part then suddenly another lesbian is seen as a threat to somehow snatch away his woman; as if the woman who is centre of the ring does not have a mind or capabilities to make up her own mind and is caught in this triage.

There has been a steady stream of cases involving butch identified or perceived looking women as men feel somehow insecure. I have noticed something else as men overall have moved along the trajectory of unisexual clothing, aesthetics if you will; becoming more feminized butch women tend to be a step behind in said aesthetics. This very ‘look’ has become the center of a backlash culturally and socially towards such women who dress in those types of clothes; especially the more baggy typed clothes when such styles have moved on to form fitting body wear even for men. In other words have the wrong look and it could land one in some serious challenges despite far more overall tolerance of lesbianism nationally.

If any updates follow they will be posted but life goes on for or sister in this matter I can imagine those matters that do not get reported.

Peace and tolerance

H

Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender & Queer Jamaica

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Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Christians say ... Don't force gay agenda on them ........ lol

International Conflict Resolution Day 2015

Man threatens woman for attempting to steal his woman