Does size matter? - The women speak

By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE
Observer's All Woman writer

THE debate about the ideal size is one that continues to be a hot topic, no matter how many times the issue comes up. While many men are proud to declare that they are blessed and have just what their women require, some women feel that if he is largely proportioned but does not have the skill in using it, it is of no significance.
However, one sex therapist said size is really a state of mind for women, since studies have shown that the average depth of the vagina is only 4.5 cm. So if a man's member is longer than this, the remainder is really wasted!

"If she doesn't see it before he enters her, then she will have no hang-ups and will enjoy every moment," sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill said. "If however, she sees a small member, after having heard all those glorious tales about what a large member can do, then no matter good he is in bed, she will block her mind from it."
And so we decided to pose the question to women, 'does size matter?' 'And what in your view is the ideal size'?

Sherine, 28: Of course size matters. Even if it's big and lanky, it is better than a small one. Too small makes me nauseous just looking at it! Especially some where the scrotum is larger.

Ideal size: 9 inches.

Selena, 45: Of course size matters. I don't want anything oversized or too small. I don't want anything to cause me pain during the act, but I don't want something that I can't feel either.

Ideal size: 6 - 7 inches.

Debbie, 43: Of course size matters! What's the point of lying down and you're not feeling anything? When everything else in the relationship pop down that is the one thing that will keep it going. When there is no money, job, niceties, going out etc, you can use it till you drop. A small member cannot accomplish that!

Ideal size: 7 inches (but has to have both length and girth).

Althea, 35: It matters yes, but it is not the be all and end all. Some men feel that if they have a huge or above average member that's it. But that's not true 'cause you can have a big size and don't know how to use it and that doesn't make sense. If you're big you still need technique and skills. On the other hand if you are too small, technique and skill won't make sense. But it also depends on the woman he is with, because every woman's size is different so it depends on the woman's body mass. Maybe she is too small and can't enjoy a large member while another woman would. I guess it would be the same for a small one.
But I can see where too small could be a problem. But there are women who don't really enjoy sex so much as they do the foreplay and the intimacy, so I guess in cases like those, small wouldn't really matter.

Ideal size: 7 - 9 inches (needs to have girth).

Marcia, 39: Size matters of course but only if its average size, nothing to cause pain and nothing that you can sleep through. Some men think women enjoy a huge penis and the pain that sometimes goes with it, but that is not so. Yes you want to feel something, but that something should be good and pleasurable, not painful to the point that for days you can't walk.
Ideal size: 5 - 6 inches.