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Monday, June 23, 2008

How To Use a Dildo for Strap-on Sex for Lesbians

How To Use a Dildo for Strap-on Sex
From Kathy Belge,
Your Guide to Lesbian Life.


Lesbians who like penetration may want to try a dildo for strap-on sex.

Here are some tips for great sex with a dildo or strap-on.

Difficulty: Average
Time Required: An evening
Here's How:Find the right dildo.

Here are some tips for buying the right dildo for your needs.

So you and your partner have decided to introduce a dildo, or strap-on to your sexual repertoire. If you've never used one before, it can be hard to know where to begin. Here's some advice to get you started.
Time Required: A few hours
Here's How:
  1. Decide how big a dildo you want. Dildos come in a variety of sizes. Experiment with how deep and wide you like penetration. You can use your fingers as a guide.
  2. Choose which material will work best for you. Many dildos are made of silicone because it retains body heat and is easy to clean. Less expensive models are made of rubber. If you are a first-timer, you may want to start with a less expensive rubber model. I would not recommend glass or lucite for your first dildo.
  3. To harness or not? You can use a dildo with an harness or hold it in your hand. A harness leaves your hands free, but will take an additional chunk out of your wallet. If money is a concern, you may choose to wait on the harness and experiment with hand holding it.
  4. Pick your store. If you have one steady partner, the two of you may wish to shop together for your new toy. You're likely to feel more comfortable in a store that caters to women. You can make your purchse on-line, but you may prefer to visit a store in person where you can touch and feel the different models.
  5. If you decide to buy a harness, the most important feature is comfort. Some fit like a g-string and others wrap around your butt cheeks like a jock strap. Another type straps around your thigh. Choose which you think will be the most comfortable for you.
  6. Go home and enjoy. But don't forget to practice Safer Sex.

Get used to your new toy. Put on your harness and dildo and get used to how it feels before jumping right into bed with your partner. Have her help you into the harness. The tighter it is, the more control you will have and the more sensation you will feel.Don't forget foreplay. Kiss her. Touch her. Get her excited and turned on before you penetrate.Put a condom on your dildo and use plenty of lube, even if she seems lubricated.
Slippery and wet is much more enjoyable.Go slow and easy the first time. Angle your dildo upwards, not back toward her spine. Let your partner guide you in how fast, slow, deep, rough or easy you go.Try different positions. Old fashioned missionary position allows for face to face intimacy. Doggy-style allows you to penetrate further inside her.Use your hands.

Remember the foreplay? Keep at it, caressing her where she likes it most.Mix it up. Experiment with oral sex. Watching their lover go down on a dildo is a big turn on for many dykes. If you want to experiment with anal penetration, take it slow and easy and use lots of lube. Remember to change condoms any time you change orifices.

Communication is key. As with any sex, talking about what you like, don't like, what you want, what feels good is very important. Listen and pay attention to her body language. Ask her if it feels good. Does she want it deeper, faster, slower?Remember if you share any sex toy, to change the condom!

Peace and tolerance

H

1 comment:

Violet Ivy said...

This is a fantastic how-to buy the right dildo whether you're gay or straight. The vagina has a certain anatomy and penis shaped objects feel great if this is what you would like to add into your sex life; vaginally or anally.
As long as u use lube, take your time and it's all consensual physically and mentally go for it.
Have fun play time!
Violet Ivy
Author
Lucky Girl - How I Survived the Sex Industry

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