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Monday, June 23, 2008

How To Use a Dildo for Strap-on Sex for Lesbians

How To Use a Dildo for Strap-on Sex
From Kathy Belge,
Your Guide to Lesbian Life.

Lesbians who like penetration may want to try a dildo for strap-on sex.

Here are some tips for great sex with a dildo or strap-on.

Difficulty: Average
Time Required: An evening
Here's How:Find the right dildo.

Here are some tips for buying the right dildo for your needs.

So you and your partner have decided to introduce a dildo, or strap-on to your sexual repertoire. If you've never used one before, it can be hard to know where to begin. Here's some advice to get you started.

Time Required: A few hours

Here's How:

Decide how big a dildo you want. Dildos come in a variety of sizes. Experiment with how deep and wide you like penetration. You can use your fingers as a guide.
Choose which material will work best for you. Many dildos are made of silicone because it retains body heat and is easy to clean. Less expensive models are made of rubber. If you are a first-timer, you may want to start with a less expensive rubber model. I would not recommend glass or lucite for your first dildo.
To harness or not? You can use a dildo with an harness or hold it in your hand. A harness leaves your hands free, but will take an additional chunk out of your wallet. If money is a concern, you may choose to wait on the harness and experiment with hand holding it.
Pick your store. If you have one steady partner, the two of you may wish to shop together for your new toy. You're likely to feel more comfortable in a store that caters to women. You can make your purchse on-line, but you may prefer to visit a store in person where you can touch and feel the different models.
If you decide to buy a harness, the most important feature is comfort. Some fit like a g-string and others wrap around your butt cheeks like a jock strap. Another type straps around your thigh. Choose which you think will be the most comfortable for you.
Go home and enjoy. But don't forget to practice Safer Sex.

Get used to your new toy. Put on your harness and dildo and get used to how it feels before jumping right into bed with your partner. Have her help you into the harness. The tighter it is, the more control you will have and the more sensation you will feel.Don't forget foreplay. Kiss her. Touch her. Get her excited and turned on before you penetrate.Put a condom on your dildo and use plenty of lube, even if she seems lubricated.

Slippery and wet is much more enjoyable.Go slow and easy the first time. Angle your dildo upwards, not back toward her spine. Let your partner guide you in how fast, slow, deep, rough or easy you go.Try different positions. Old fashioned missionary position allows for face to face intimacy. Doggy-style allows you to penetrate further inside her.Use your hands.

Remember the foreplay? Keep at it, caressing her where she likes it most.Mix it up. Experiment with oral sex. Watching their lover go down on a dildo is a big turn on for many dykes. If you want to experiment with anal penetration, take it slow and easy and use lots of lube. Remember to change condoms any time you change orifices.

Communication is key. As with any sex, talking about what you like, don't like, what you want, what feels good is very important. Listen and pay attention to her body language. Ask her if it feels good. Does she want it deeper, faster, slower?Remember if you share any sex toy, to change the condom!

Peace and tolerance

1 comment:

Ryan Boyles said...: Thanks for the tips! My partner is having a hard time choosing what size of dildo to buy.

-Ryan| sex toys Philippines; January 26, 2013 at 9:22 PM

Violence and venom force gay Jamaicans to hide

Violence and venom force gay Jamaicans to hide a 2009 Word focus report where the history of the major explosion of homeless msms occurred and references to the party DVD that was leaked to the bootleg market which exposed many unsuspecting patrons to the public (3:59), also the caustic remarks made by former member of Parliament in the then JLP administration. The agencies at the time were also highlighted and the homo negative and homophobic violence met by ordinary Jamaican same gender loving men. The late founder of the CVC, former ED of JASL and JFLAG Dr. Robert Carr was also interviewed. At 4:42 that MSM is still homeless to this date but has managed to eek out a living but being ever so cautious as his face is recognizable from the exposed party DVD

Thanks for your Donations

Hello readers,
thank you for your donations via Paypal in helping to keep this blog going and related costs. Please continue to support me and my allies in this venure that has now become a full time activity. When I first started blogging in late 2007 it was just as a pass time to highlight GLBTQ issues in Jamaica under then JFLAG's blogspot page but now clearly there is a need for more forumatic activity which I want to continue to play my part.

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To continue this venture towards website development with an E-zine focus

Work with other Non Governmental organizations old and new towards similar focus and objectives

To find common ground on issues affecting GLBTQ and straight friendly persons in Jamaica towards tolerance and harmony

Exposing homophobic activities and suggesting corrective solutions

To formalise GLBTQ Jamaica's activities in the long term

Continuing discussion on issues affecting GLBTQ people in Jamaica and elsewhere

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Track human rights issues in general with a view to support for ALL

Thanks again
Howie
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Peace

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Individuals who are mentioned or whose photographs appear on this site are not necessarily Homosexual, HIV positive or have AIDS.

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Peace to you and be safe out there.

Love.

Steps to Take When Contronted or Arrested by Police

a) Ask to see a lawyer or Duty Council

b) Only give name and address and no other information until a lawyer is present to assist

c) Try to be polite even if the scenario is tensed) Don’t do anything to aggravate the situation

e) Every complaint lodged at a police station should be filed and a receipt produced, this is not a legal requirement but an administrative one for the police to track reports

f) Never sign to a statement other than the one produced by you in the presence of the officer(s)

g) Try to capture a recording of the exchange or incident or call someone so they can hear what occurs, place on speed dial important numbers or text someone as soon as possible

h) File a civil suit if you feel your rights have been violatedi) When making a statement to the police have all or most of the facts and details together for e.g. "a car" vs. "the car" represents two different descriptions

j) Avoid having the police writing the statement on your behalf except incases of injuries, make sure what you want to say is recorded carefully, ask for a copy if it means that you have to return for it

American Academy of Pediatrics Supports Gay Marriage ..... says it is good for kids

The American Academy of Pediatrics, representing 60,000 pediatricians and other pediatric specialists, “supports pediatricians advocating for public policies that help all children and their parents, regardless of sexual orientation, build and maintain strong, stable, and healthy families that are able to meet the needs of their children.” The AAP’s position comes from the perspective of what is best for the children’s well-being: these factors include potentially better access to health insurance, as well as the legal rights for the children and families by marriage, such as parental visitation and custody in case of divorce. There are estimated to be three million lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents in the United States, according to the Family Equality Council (CLICK IMAGE FOR MORE)

Unimpressed with the CVM TV show on MSM Homelessness

Unimpressed with the CVM TV show on MSM Homelessness The September 6th appearance of representatives from The National Council of Drug Abuse and AIDSFREEWORLD's Maurice Tomlinson to address the recent public eviction of homeless MSMS from Cargill Avenue was at best damage control to another embarrassment regarding the poor response from the relevant LGBT agencies. JFLAG WAS NOT PRESENT AT THIS CVM TV LIVE @ SEVEN Program The attempt to use old programmatic language by Maurice Tomlison to suggest MSMs have no access to condoms while the CVM newscast itself showed the movers holding the condoms in their hands they found on the site and saying the men were practicing safer sex should be instructive to ALL in view

Homeless MSMs evicted from Cargill Avenue (evening edition)

28/08/12 CVM TV again rebroadcast a story of homeless msms and the deplorable living conditions coupled with the almost sensationalistic narrative of the alleged commercial sex work the men are involved in. Gay Jamaica Watch has been following this issue since 2009 when the older populations of MSMs who were for the most part displaced due to forced evictions and homo negative issues and their re-displacement by agencies who on the face of it refused to put in place any serious social interventions to assist the men to recovery

More on Cargill Avenue Homeless MSMs Eviction

CVM TV continued their coverage on Aug 30, 2012 of the story in their midday newscast of the Cargill eviction matter but disturbingly the men supposedly denied that they were commercial sex workers, CSWs which we know better, also the voice who indicated they were "Peer educators" clearly was lying, why would peer educators live in bushes? The real homeless men lost a golden opportunity to speak on their issues to the nation and by extension the world but instead the moment was hijacked by some other persons. Only the truth will make our advocacy effective, homeless or not.

Voice From The Street - Crime against Jamaican homosexuals (Homophobic or non homophobic?)

The Jamaica Observer vox pop after recent pronouncements by ACP Les Green (now abroad) and Betty Ann Blaine who says the gay lobby is in essence lying about homophobic murders. Most persons still believe killings with LGBT victims are caused by lover's quarrels. A few persons say real homophobic killings exist based on the cross dressing and effeminacy in public. The deceased pattern of nudity was suggested at (1:04) in the clip one female went as far to suggest they are already in parliament (2:42)

UNAIDS Director says the PNP offers hope for the repealing of the buggery law …… but some concerns

UNAIDS Regional Director of the support team in the Caribbean Dr Ernest Massiah says the return of the Peoples National Party PNP in Jamaica offers hope that the tide will turn where the repealing of the Buggery Law is concerned this he interprets as a pre-election commitment by the then opposition leader now ruling Prime Minister Portia Simpson Miller to review the legislation which I still see as a suggestion by her in answering the question posed by Dionne Jackson Miller in the leadership debate in 2011 in the run up to the general election in December last.(CLICK IMAGE FOR FULL POST ON WORDPRESS)

AP - Transgender advocates seek new diagnostic terms

Rachel Sorrow, a transgender woman, smiles as she attends a therapy session with Dr. Dan Karasic, a psychiatrist with the Center of Excellence for Transgender Health, at San Francisco General Hospital in San Francisco, Friday, July 20, 2012. The nation’s psychiatric establishment is wrestling with questions on proper treatment of transgender people as it works to overhaul its diagnostic manual for the first time in almost two decades. Advocates have spent years lobbying the American Psychiatric Association to rewrite or even remove the categories typically used to diagnose transgender people, arguing that terms like Gender Identity Disorder and Transvestic Fetishism promote discrimination by broad-brushing a diverse population with the stigma of mental illness. (AP Photo/Marcio Jose Sanchez) (CLICK IMAGE FOR MORE)

The PNP's first 100 days ............. buggery review looks far away

What to do if you are attacked (News You Can Use)

First, be calm: Do not panic; it may be very difficult to maintain composure if attacked but this is important.

Try to reason with the attacker: Establish communication with the person. This takes a lot of courage. However, a conversation may change the intention of an attacker.

Do not try anything foolish: If you know outmanoeuvring the attacker is impossible, do not try it.

Do not appear to be afraid: Look the attacker in the eye and demonstrate that you are not fearful.

This may have a psychological effect on the individual.

Emergency numbers
The police 119

Kingfish 811

Crime Stop 311

Shout outs

Look in, Look out, Look around you

This blog contains HIV prevention messages that may not be appropriate for all audiences.

If you are not seeking such information or may be offended by such materials, please exit.

Since HIV infection is spread primarily through sexual practices or by sharing needles, prevention messages and programs may address these topics.

Individuals who are mentioned or whose photographs appear on this site are not necessarily Gay, HIV positive or have AIDS.

This blog is not designed to provide medical care, if you are ill, please seek medical advice from a licensed practioner.

SPEAK UP People!!!
Hi Folks a word from us to you:
Visit the newspaper sites or purchase the paper(s)

Read the Letter to the Editor

Write your own Letters to the Editor

Respond Appropriately to the Author(s) where neccessary and respectfully

Keep the dialogue going

Call the talk shows:

http://www.jamaica-gleaner.com/

http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/

http://www.sunheraldja.com/frontpage/

http://www.nationwidenewsnetwork.com/ (double click the radio dial icon to launch)

http://www.go-jamaica.com/power/ Power 106FM

http://www.newstalk.com.jm/

What to do

When Arrested and taken to a Police Station you have the right to:

a. Make a phone call: to a lawyer or relative or anyone
b. Ask to see a lawyer immediately: if you don’t have the money ask for a Duty Council
c. A Duty Council is a lawyer provided by the state
d. Talk to a lawyer before you talk to the police
e. Tell your lawyer if anyone hits you and identify who did so by name and number
f. Give no explanations excuses or stories: you can make your defense later in court based on what you and your lawyer decided
g. Ask the sub officer in charge of the station to grant bail once you are charged with an offence
h. Ask to be taken before a justice of The Peace immediately if the sub officer refuses you bail
i. Demand to be brought before a Resident Magistrate and have your lawyer ask the judge for bail
j. Ask that any property taken from you be listed and sealed in your presence
Cases of Assault:An assault is an apprehension that someone is about to hit you

The following may apply:
1) Call 119 or go to the station or the police arrives depending on the severity of the injuries

2) The report must be about the incident as it happened, once the report is admitted as evidence it becomes the basis for the trial

3) Critical evidence must be gathered as to the injuries received which may include a Doctor’s report of the injuries.

4) The description must be clearly stated; describing injuries directly and identifying them clearly, show the doctor the injuries clearly upon the visit it must be able to stand up under cross examination in court.

5) Misguided evidence threatens the credibility of the witness during a trial; avoid the questioning of the witnesses credibility, the tribunal of fact must be able to rely on the witness’s word in presenting evidence

6) The court is guided by credible evidence on which it will make it’s finding of facts

7) Bolster the credibility of a case by a report from an independent disinterested party.

Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender & Queer Jamaica

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Monday, June 23, 2008

How To Use a Dildo for Strap-on Sex for Lesbians

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