Saturday, August 7, 2010
While Independence has put us in a self-congratulatory mood, amid the parties we ought to take some time for reflection. We have accomplished many great things through hard work and a tenacious spirit, but there have been countless bumps in the road. The fact that the black, green and gold of the Jamaican flag is a major fashion statement is not to be taken lightly. It indicates how deep-rooted the Jamaican culture has become in many corners of the Earth. However, 48 years on, we cannot claim to have achieved the objectives of our founding fathers who started the Independence journey. And as we become reflective, we also have the right to be critical of those things that have retarded our progress.
For sure, patriotism means different things to different people. For some, patriotism means an unquestioned loyalty to one's country, while to others the country offers an opportunity for them to garner wealth and power ruthlessly, yet there are others who believe that Government or some godfather ought to take care of all their needs. Then there are the disillusioned, including scores of young people, who feel let down by Jamaica because there are so few opportunities.
Just lip service?
If patriotism means unquestionable loyalty to one's country, then many people have simply been paying lip service to the ideal. For example, how much love do business people have for Jamaica when they dodge the taxman and fail to pay customs duties?
How much do they love Jamaica when citizens engage in importing guns and ammunition knowing that they will be used to kill innocent people? Is it love that causes people to engage in the kinds of antisocial behaviour that scars the good name of Jamaica? How patriotic is it to manage the economy in a reckless manner with the only emphasis being on election victories? It's a reasonable conclusion to draw, that one man's patriotism is another man's treason.
Indeed, one of the things that have held us back is the fact that we continue to see issues through the lens of the PNP-JLP political spectrum. It means every issue becomes polarised into right and wrong as we apportion blame to one side or other. We need the kind of inspired leadership that will help to convince the majority that the grave misjudgements of the past will not be repeated, and that there are indeed better days ahead.
If we want to wake up to a new Jamaica, we need to stop the finger-pointing at each other and admit that both parties have engaged in flawed policies to the detriment of the country. Instead of trying to convince us that one party has all the answers, we urge all parties to work together to achieve success on the economic, social and political fronts - then will we have a good chance at regaining the nation's vitality and restoring hope.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Consider these five perspectives the foundation for your relationships. This is all about you. As you strengthen your relationship with yourself via these guidelines, your ability to listen, communicate, and connect will deepen and expand.
Adopting these perspectives can bring an immediate shift in your relationships and you can apply these perspectives for the rest of your life!
Enjoy, have fun, be curious. Be love.
Your most important relationship is with yourself.
To fully nurture your relationship with yourself and others, I believe it is essential to understand and hone your sense of sovereignty. ALL of your relationships can challenge and deepen your sense of sovereignty which, at its core, is about accepting responsibility for your life.
You are solely responsible for creating and enjoying your life.
Sovereignty isn't about isolation, narcissism or a prompt to tug on your bootstraps. Of course you will join and partner with others. Yes, give and receive love thoughtfully. Be as close and intimate with others as feels true and genuine to your heart.
Just don't look for anyone else to fill a void or make things better for you.
Let's bring this concept of relating first to yourself home. Imagine being your own partner.
Are you pleased with the love, attention and care you give to this relationship with yourself?
What adjustments can you make to that will allow you to smile proudly when you answer that question?
NOTE: Any "yeah, buts" that your mind generates right now are lies. P.E.R.I.O.D.
Now, think of yourself with others,
Do you set you aside so that you can have your relationships with others?
How does this take its toll on you?
How does this take a toll on your relationships?
Enjoying a sovereign relationship with yourself allows you to see when, where and how you want to connect with others while centered in love, creativity, and integrity.
I know that you understand the logic of loving yourself. Your evolving answers to this question become your guide as you move from concept to reality.
What would a completely healed, positive relationship with myself look and feel like?
Love is the glue, the lube, and the glitter on top.
Your perspective creates your reality. Your relationships will be grounded or distorted to the degree that you are viewing your connection from love's vantage point. Your anger, fear and frustration can point you in the direction of love, but are not trusted filters from which to engage with others.
Give yourself permission to step away from a situation, reconnect with yourself and your sense of love. Then revisit the conflict and discussion with the person in your life.
Vulnerability is the new courage.
Readily sharing more of you with the world and with others is a natural outcome of your sense of sovereignty. When you've made a commitment to being yourself in all situations, it becomes easier to also share what others may consider weaknesses. For example, saying I was wrong, I really care about you, or I don't know. Welcoming others' vulnerability is the flip side of sharing your own and deepens your relationship.
I LOVE Dan Pallotta's article, Misfit Entrepreneurs. Don't misjudge the title and topic. An entrepreneur's willingness to be a fool for a divine purpose as Dan describes it, has applications to our relationships.
"To embrace the misfit in oneself is to be vulnerable. It is to forsake the easy acceptance that comes with fitting in and to instead be fortified by a kind of love, really. A love of life, a love of wonder, and, ultimately, a sustaining love for oneself. Far from egoism, that love for oneself is a measure of one's love for others, for humanity. And it is only from love that great ideas can be born."
What if you brought this much commitment, vision, vulnerability, and creativity to ALL of your relationships?
Live your universality.
We are all connected via our energy and common humanity. Your universality emerges from the understanding that you are a spiritual being having a physical experience. Living your universality is about knowing in your heart that you are always a child of god, source, divine, as is everyone and everything in our universe.
A central gift of our current experiences is that we each are able to become more intimate and compassionate with each other. Judgment, while seemingly putting up one last good fight, is becoming extinct. Feeling righteous as you point your finger at someone else attempts to deny your kindred relationship with that person.
Masaru Emoto's amazing research regarding the influence of positive thinking on water droplets illustrates the science behind how our common energy is so intimately linked.
Check out this video
What does this have to do with your relationships? There are two parts to this:
First, if you accepted our integral connectivity, why would you ever feel alone?
If you could have anyone, alive, dead or imagined by your side, who would you call upon when you are afraid?
Again, alive, dead, or imagined, who reminds you about your inherent courage, integrity, creativity, and love?
Next time you wonder if you're enough, simply call out the divine troupes to help you move toward what matters to you.
Secondly, look at the impact of your thoughts on yourself and others. For the health of you and others, choose love. Always.
Yesterday's best way isn't necessarily today's best way.
I know that there are aspects of the past that feel relevant to you today. Those relational beliefs and practices that are aligned with your soul will be easily incorporated into your life. You will know when you're trying to recreate what isn't true for you through your continued frustration and limited success.
I have found the following questions to be my most accurate guide me in my connections with others.
How loving is this?
How authentic is this?
How creative is this?
In closing, change is the new normal, my friends.
creates the continuity you seek.
Thanks ever so much for making the world a better place! Two things before I wrap this up.
Please feel free to share this with your friends
This month, IN THE LIFE features encore presentations of three stories from our archive. We look at how a work of art inspired The Trevor Project, the leading national organization for crisis and suicide prevention for LGBT and questioning youth.
In A Conversation With..., Edmund White and Doric Wilson revisit the Stonewall Riots, and the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence share how, unified as an Order of many faiths and spiritual beliefs, they've been "promulgating universal joy" for over three decades.
The tragedy of teen suicide is many times more likely for alienated LGBT youth than their straight peers. James Lecesne's groundbreaking play Word of Mouth, became an Oscar winning short film (Trevor), that gave birth to the only nationwide, 24-hour, suicide prevention helpline that has saved countless thousands. Now in its tenth year, The Trevor Project provides lifesaving guidance and vital resources to teens, educators and parents. Writers Edmund White and Doric Wilson share first hand accounts of the Stonewall Riots, and discuss how bearing witness to the uprising impacted their work and shaped their politics. Since their first appearance in San Francisco on Easter Sunday in 1979, The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence have used the power of parody to expose the forces of bigotry, complacency, and guilt. Today, The Sisters are a global collective of queer performance artists devoted to promoting human rights, respect for diversity, and spiritual enlightenment.
The tragedy of teen suicide is many times more likely for alienated LGBT youth than their straight peers. James Lecesne's groundbreaking play Word of Mouth, became an Oscar winning short film (Trevor), that gave birth to the only nationwide, 24-hour, suicide prevention helpline that has saved countless thousands. Now in its tenth year, The Trevor Project provides lifesaving guidance and vital resources to teens, educators and parents.
Writers Edmund White and Doric Wilson share first hand accounts of the Stonewall Riots, and discuss how bearing witness to the uprising impacted their work and shaped their politics.
Since their first appearance in San Francisco on Easter Sunday in 1979, The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence have used the power of parody to expose the forces of bigotry, complacency, and guilt. Today, The Sisters are a global collective of queer performance artists devoted to promoting human rights, respect for diversity, and spiritual enlightenment.
All Episodes in the 18th Season
The Unseen Gays: Struggling on the Margins
At a time when nearly every corner of the country is suffering from market downturns and high unemployment rates, many in the LGBT community are especially hard hit. In our lead segment, we look at how racial, economic and gender-based discrimination result in disproportionate rates of poverty, unemployment and homelessness among the most marginalized members of our community.
Bad Man Nuh F*** Batty (Masculine Men Don't F*** Ass) (The Fear of The Feminine in JA) 16.04.15
Dr Shelly Ann Weeks on Homophobia - What are we afraid of?
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HYPOCRISY FROM THE PULPIT ON HOMELESSNESS IN THE MSM COMMUNITY?
Days later the same paper in the print edition only carried the cartoon as done by its resident cartoonist Clovis on December 11, 2013 parodying Tiana Miller transgender spokesperson for the JFLAG We Are Jamaicans Campaign and another member of the homeless MSM in New Kingston
The Reverend Father Sean Major-Campbell washes the feet of two Jamaican lesbians, Jalna Broderick (in the background), director of Quality of Citizenship Jamaica, and Rochelle (surname withheld) during an observance in celebration of Human Rights at Christ Church in Vineyard Town, St Andrew, Photos by Rudolph Brown/Photographer
When Same Gender Relationships go Bad
A JAMAICAN WOMAN was remanded to Dodds for a month today after being charged with causing serious bodily harm to her live-in female companion.
Kerreon Ishane Kelly, 25, of Barker's Road, Haggatt Hall, St Michael, was not required to plead to the charge of doing serious bodily harm to Tishana Alphonso of the same address, with intent to maim, disfigure or disable her on January 8 this year.
I was also made to understand that the alleged attacker later apologised for the vicious attack on Instagram.
She allegedly wrote: "Sometimes we let ignorancy get the best of us n we tend to do stuff we don't wanna do and then having regret ... today (Saturday), I did the most cruel thing of all my life and I just want to take a minute to just say how truly and deeply sorry I am. I never really get the seriousness of it until my fren send me a pic ... I want to make a public apology to my ex. I wouldn't wish such a evil act on anyone."
War of words between pro & anti gay activists on HIV matters .......... what hypocrisy is this?
Urgent Need to discuss sex & sexuality II
Following a cowardly decision by the Minister(try) of Education to withdraw an all important Health Family Life, HFLE Manual on sex and sexuality
Calls for Tourism Boycotts are Nonsensical at This Time
(2014 protests New York)
Calling for boycotts by overseas based Jamaican advocates who for the most part are not in touch with our present realities in a real way and do not understand the implications of such calls can only seek to make matters worse than assisting in the struggle, we must learn from, the present economic climate of austerity & tense calm makes it even more sensible that persons be cautious, will these groups assist when there is fallout?, previous experiences from such calls made in 2008 and 2009 and the near diplomatic nightmare that missed us; especially owing to the fact that many of the victims used in the public advocacy of violence were not actual homophobic cases which just makes the ethics of advocacy far less credible than it ought to be.
See more explained HERE from a previous post following the Queen Ifrica matter and how it was mishandled
Newstalk 93FM's Issues On Fire: Polygamy Should Be Legalized In Jamaica 08.04.14
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The agencies at the time were also highlighted and the homo negative and homophobic violence met by ordinary Jamaican same gender loving men.
The late founder of the CVC, former ED of JASL and JFLAG Dr. Robert Carr was also interviewed.
At 4:42 that MSM was still homeless to 2012 but has managed to eek out a living but being ever so cautious as his face is recognizable from the exposed party DVD, he has been slowly making his way to recovery despite the very slow pace.
Thanks for your Donations
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Activities & Plans: ongoing and future
- To continue this venture towards website development with an E-zine focus
- Work with other Non Governmental organizations old and new towards similar focus and objectives
- To find common ground on issues affecting GLBTQ and straight friendly persons in Jamaica towards tolerance and harmony
- Exposing homophobic activities and suggesting corrective solutions
- To formalise GLBTQ Jamaica's activities in the long term
- Continuing discussion on issues affecting GLBTQ people in Jamaica and elsewhere
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- Present issues on HIV/AIDS related matters in a timely and accurate manner
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- Track human rights issues in general with a view to support for ALL
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What to do if you are attacked (News You Can Use)
Try to reason with the attacker: Establish communication with the person. This takes a lot of courage. However, a conversation may change the intention of an attacker.
Do not try anything foolish: If you know outmanoeuvring the attacker is impossible, do not try it.
Do not appear to be afraid: Look the attacker in the eye and demonstrate that you are not fearful.
This may have a psychological effect on the individual.
The police 119
Crime Stop 311
Steps to Take When Contronted or Arrested by Police
b) Only give name and address and no other information until a lawyer is present to assist
c) Try to be polite even if the scenario is tensed) Don’t do anything to aggravate the situation
e) Every complaint lodged at a police station should be filed and a receipt produced, this is not a legal requirement but an administrative one for the police to track reports
f) Never sign to a statement other than the one produced by you in the presence of the officer(s)
g) Try to capture a recording of the exchange or incident or call someone so they can hear what occurs, place on speed dial important numbers or text someone as soon as possible
h) File a civil suit if you feel your rights have been violatedi) When making a statement to the police have all or most of the facts and details together for e.g. "a car" vs. "the car" represents two different descriptions
j) Avoid having the police writing the statement on your behalf except incases of injuries, make sure what you want to say is recorded carefully, ask for a copy if it means that you have to return for it
Sexual Health / STDs News From Medical News Today
Alleged Gay Vice Principal Story & Securing Personal Digital Data
some angry residents reacting to the matter nearing the school
He says the images have been tampered with.
Dervon Wellington, Acting Principal of the Christiana High School in Manchester speaking to Nationwide’s Abka Fitz-Henley said but the shots looked quite clear to most and not photoshopped as is being contested.
In the meantime the Chairman of the Board of Christiana High, Calvin Lyn says a meeting was being organized then in December to address an issue which he says has implications for the institution.
All in all the gentlemen involved have since relocated overseas to avoid issues but a word to the wise is sufficient secure ones personal digital materials so that they do not get leaked, or hacked or stolen and then inadvertently find themselves online.
Peace and tolerance
SEE the CVM TV report HERE