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The Safe House Homeless LGBTQ Project 2009 a detailed look & more


In response to numerous requests for more information on the defunct Safe House Pilot Project that was to address the growing numbers of displaced and homeless LGBTQ youth in Kingston in 2007/8/9, a review of the relevance of the project as a solution, the possible avoidance of present issues with some of its previous residents if it were kept open.
Recorded June 12, 2013; also see from the former Executive Director named in the podcast more background on the project: HERE also see the beginning of the issues from the closure of the project: The Quietus ……… The Safe House Project Closes and The Ultimatum on December 30, 2009

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Why most "pedophiles" aren't really pedophiles, technically speaking

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By Jesse Bering

Michael Jackson probably wasn’t a pedophile—at least, not in the strict, biological sense of the word. It’s a morally loaded term, pedophile, that has become synonymous with the very basest of evils. (In fact it’s hard to even say it aloud without cringing, isn’t it?) But according to sex researchers, it’s also a grossly misused term.

If Jackson did fall outside the norm in his “erotic age orientation”—and we may never know if he did—he was almost certainly what’s called a hebephile, a newly proposed diagnostic classification in which people display a sexual preference for children at the cusp of puberty, between the ages of, roughly, 11 to 14 years of age. Pedophiles, in contrast, show a sexual preference for clearly prepubescent children. There are also ephebophiles (from ephebos, meaning “one arrived at puberty” in Greek), who are mostly attracted to 15- to 16-year-olds; teleiophiles (from teleios, meaning, “full grown” in Greek), who prefer those 17 years of age or older); and even the very rare gerontophile (from gerontos, meaning “old man” in Greek), someone whose sexual preference is for the elderly. So although child sex offenders are often lumped into the single classification of pedophilia, biologically speaking it’s a rather complicated affair. Some have even proposed an additional subcategory of pedophilia, “infantophilia,” to distinguish those individuals most intensely attracted to children below six years of age.

Based on this classification scheme of erotic age orientations, even the world’s best-known fictitious “pedophile,” Humbert Humbert from Nabokov’s masterpiece, Lolita, would more properly be considered a hebephile. (Likewise the protagonist from Thomas Mann’s Death in Venice, a work that I’ve always viewed as something of the “gay Lolita”). Consider Humbert’s telltale description of a “nymphet.” After a brief introduction to those “pale pubescent girls with matted eyelashes,” Humbert explains:
Between the age limits of nine and fourteen there occur maidens who, to certain bewitched travelers, twice or many times older than they, reveal their true nature which is not human, but nymphic (that is, demoniac); and these chosen creatures I propose to designate as “nymphets.”

Although Michael Jackson might have suffered more disgrace from his hebephilic orientation than most, and his name will probably forever be entangled darkly with the sinister phrase “little boys,” he wasn’t the first celebrity or famous figure that could be seen as falling into this hebephilic category. In fact, ironically, Michael Jackson’s first wife, Lisa Marie Presley, is the product of a hebephilic attraction. After all, let’s not forget that Priscilla caught Elvis’s very grownup eye when she was just fourteen, only a year or two older than the boys that Michael Jackson was accused of sexually molesting. Then there’s of course also the scandalous Jerry Lee Lewis incident in which the 23-year-old “Great Balls of Fire” singer married his 13-year-old first cousin.

In the psychiatric community, there’s recently been a hubbub of commotion concerning whether hebephelia should be designated as a medical disorderor, instead, seen simply as a normal variant of sexual orientation and not indicative of brain pathology. There are important policy implications of adding hebephilia to the checklist of mental illnesses, since doing so might allow people who sexually abuse pubescent children to invoke a mental illness defense.

One researcher who is arguing vociferously for the inclusion of hebephilia in the American Psychiatric Association's revised diagnostic manual (the DSM-V) is University of Toronto psychologist Ray Blanchard. In last month’s issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior, Blanchard and his colleagues provide new evidence that many people diagnosed under the traditional label of pedophilia are in fact not as interested in prepubescent children as they are early adolescents.

To tease apart these erotic age orientation differences, Blanchard and his colleagues studied 881 men (straight and gay) in his laboratory usingphallometric testing (also known as penile plethysmography) while showing them visual images of differently aged nude models. Because this technique measures penile blood volume changes, it’s seen as being a fairly objective index of sexual arousal to what’s being shown on the screen—which, for those attracted to children and young adolescents, the participant might verbally deny being attracted to. In other words, the penis isn’t a very good liar. So, for example, in Blanchard’s study, the image of a naked 12-year-old girl (nothing prurient, but rather resembling a subject in a medical textbook) was accompanied by the following audiotaped narrative:
“You are watching a late movie on TV with your neighbors’ 12-year-old daughter. You have your arm around her shoulders, and your fingers brush against her chest. You realize that her breasts have begun to develop…”

Blanchard and his coauthors found that the men in their sample fell into somewhat discrete categories of erotic age orientation—some had the strongest penile response to the prepubescent children (the pedophiles), others to the pubescent children (the hebephiles), and the remainder to the adults shown on screen (the teleiophiles). These categories weren’t mutually exclusive. For example, some teleiophiles showed some arousal to pubescent children, some hebephiles showed some attraction to prepubescent children, and so on. But the authors did find that it’s possible to distinguish empirically between a “true pedophile” and a hebephile using this technique, in terms of the age ranges for which men exhibited their strongest arousal. They also conclude that, based on the findings from this study, hebephilia “is relatively common compared with other forms of erotic interest in children.”

In the second half of their article, Blanchard and his colleagues argue that hebephilia should be added to the newly revised DSM-V as a genuine paraphilic mental disorder—differentiating it from pedophilia. But many of his colleagues working in this area are strongly opposed to doing this.

Men who find themselves primarily attracted to young or middle-aged adolescents are clearly disadvantaged in today’s society, but historically (and evolutionarily) this almost certainly wasn’t the case. In fact, hebephiles—or at least ephebephiles—would have had a leg up over their competition. Evolutionary psychologists have found repeatedly that markers of youth correlate highly with perceptions of beauty and attractiveness. For straight men, this makes sense, since a woman’s reproductive value declines steadily after the age of about twenty. Obviously having sex with a prepubescent child would be fruitless—literally. But, whether we like it or not, this isn’t so for a teenage girl who has just come of age, who is reproductively viable and whose brand-new state of fertility can more or less ensure paternity for the male. These evolved motives were portrayed in the film Pretty Baby, in which a young Brooke Shields plays the role of twelve-old-old Violet Neil, a prostitute’s daughter in 1917’s New Orleans whose coveted virginity goes up for auction to the highest bidder.

Understanding adult gay men’s attraction to young males is more of a puzzle. Evolutionary psychologist Frank Muscarella’s “alliance formation theory” is the only one that I’m aware of that attempts to do this. This theory holds that homoerotic behavior between older, high status men and teenage boys serves as a way for the latter to move up in ranks, a sort of power-for-sex bargaining chip. The most obvious example of this type of homosexual dynamic was found in ancient Greece, but male relationships in a handful of New Guinea tribes display these homoerotic patterns as well. There are also, ahem, plenty of present-day examples of this in Congress. Oscar Wilde probably would have signed on to this theoretical perspective. After all, his famous “love that dare not speak its name” wasn’t homosexuality, per se, but rather a “great affection of an elder for a younger man”:
...as there was between David and Jonathan, such as Plato made the very basis of his philosophy, and such as you find in the sonnets of Michelangelo and Shakespeare. It is that deep, spiritual affection that is as pure as it is perfect. It dictates and pervades great works of art like those of Shakespeare and Michelangelo… It is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it. It is intellectual, and it repeatedly exists between an elder and a younger man, when the elder man has intellect, and the younger man has all the joy, hope and glamour of life before him. That it should be so, the world does not understand. The world mocks at it and sometimes puts one in the pillory for it.

But, generally speaking, Muscarella’s theory doesn’t seem to pull a lot of weight. Not many teenage boys in any culture seem terribly interested in taking this particular route to success. Rather—and I may be wrong about this—but I think most teenage boys would prefer to scrub toilets for the rest of their lives or sell soft bagels at the mall than become the sexual plaything of an “older gentlemen.”

In any event, given the biological (even adaptive) verities of being attracted to adolescents, most experts in this area find it completely illogical for Blanchard to recommend adding hebephilia to the revised DSM-V. (Especially since other more clearly maladaptive paraphilias—such as gerontophilia, in which men are attracted primarily to elderly, post-menopausal women—are not presently included in the diagnostic manual.) The push to pathologize hebephilia, argues forensic psychologist Karen Franklin, appears to be motivated more by “a booming cottage industry” in forensic psychology, not coincidentally linked with a “punitive era of moral panic." Because “civil incapacitation” (basically, the government’s ability to strip a person of his or her civil rights in the interests of public safety) requires that the person be suffering from a diagnosable mental disorder or abnormality, Franklin calls Blanchard’s proposal “a textbook example of subjective values masquerading as science.” Another critic, forensic psychologist Gregory DeClue, suggests that such medical classifications are being based on arbitrary distinctions dictated by cultural standards:
Pedophilia is a mental disorder. Homosexuality is not. Should hebephilia of ephebophilia or gerontophilia be considered mental disorders? How about sexual preference for people with different (or with the same) ethnic characteristics as oneself?

And Marquette University psychologist Thomas Zander, points out that since chronological age doesn’t always perfectly match physical age, including these subtle shades of erotic age preferences would be problematic from a diagnostic perspective:
Imagine how much more impractical it would be to require forensic evaluators to determine the existence of pedophilia based on the stage of adolescence of the examinee’s victim. Such determinations could literally devolve into a splitting of pubic hairs.

One unexplored question, and one inseparable from the case of Michael Jackson, is whether we tend to be more forgiving of a person’s sexual peccadilloes when that individual has some invaluable or culturally irreplaceable abilities. For example, consider the following true story:

There once was a man who fancied young boys. Being that laws were more lax in other nations, this man decided to travel to a foreign country, leaving his wife and young daughter behind, where he met up with another Westerner who shared in his predilections for pederasty, and there the two of them spent their happy vacation scouring the seedy underground of this country searching for pimps and renting out boys for sex.

Now if you’re like most people, you’re probably experiencing a shiver of disgust and a spark of rage. You likely feel these men should have their testicles drawn and quartered by wild mares, be thrown to a burly group of rapists, castrated with garden sheers or, if you’re the pragmatic sort, treated as any other sick animal in the herd would be treated, with a humane bullet to the temple or perhaps a swift and sure current of potassium chloride injected into the arm.

But notice the subtle change in your perceptions when I tell you that these events are from the autobiography of André Gide, who in 1947—long after he’d publicized these very details—won the Nobel prize in literature. Gide is in fact bowdlerizing his time in Algiers with none other than Oscar Wilde.
Wilde took a key out of his pocket and showed me into a tiny apartment of two rooms… The youths followed him, each of them wrapped in a burnous that hid his face. Then the guide left us and Wilde sent me into the further room with little Mohammed and shut himself up in the other with the [other boy]. Every time since then that I have sought after pleasure, it is the memory of that night I have pursued.

It’s not that we think it’s perfectly fine for Gide and Wilde to have sex with minors or even that they shouldn’t have been punished for such behaviors. (In fact Wilde was sentenced in London to two years hard labor for related offenses not long after this Maghreb excursion with Gide and died in penniless ignominy.) But somehow, as with our commingled feelings for Michael Jackson, “the greatest entertainer of all time,” the fact that these men were national treasures somehow dilutes our moralistic anger, as though we’re more willing to suffer their vices given the remarkable literary gifts they bestowed.

Would you really have wanted Oscar Wilde euthanized as though he were a sick animal? Should André Gide, whom the New York Times hailed in their obituary as a man “judged the greatest French writer of this century by the literary cognoscenti,” have been deprived of his pen, torn to pieces by illiterate thugs? It’s complicated. And although in principle we know that all men are equal in the eyes of the law, just as we did for Michael Jackson during his child molestation trials, I have a hunch that many people tend to feel (and uncomfortably so) a little sympathy for the Devil under such circumstances.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Hookeeedd (a poem)

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written By Empress- Veene

Been around long enough to say
I've had stuff
Been around long enough to admit
That I've had stuff
But none of it was like this

Your stuff
Your stuff is the kind people sing about
It's the prefect line in a song
that beat that speaks to the soul
Those words that stimulates mind and body, nerves and core.

You see this stuff
This is the stuff people write about
It's Epic
Heroically saving my pleasure famished soul from starvation

Its the epiphanic stimuli
It induces climatic climax
It's the kinda drug you don't wish to be rehabilitated from.

This aint no ordinary stuff
No this,
this is some high grade SHIT!

Yeah...
This is the kinda stuff people spend their lives searching for.
This is what happy endings is about.
This stuff will penetrate your mind with erotic memories that is never depleted or erased.
Your stuff is the most sought after stuff of the century.

See after having some a your stuff
I am so,
So drunken with pleasure
So weaken from climaxing
And so fucking high...That I've got to admit
I'm hooked on your SHIT!


Monday, January 17, 2011

When she chooses the other woman (third party in a str8 couple's bed)

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SIMONE MORGAN
All Woman Writer


JUST the mere thought of her significant other being with someone else may send a woman over the edge. Sadly though, nowadays it's a truth universally acknowledged that for some men, cheating and relationships go hand in hand, leaving many women on the brink of getting mad over love. But while many women head for breakdown when cheating becomes a feature of their relationships, others take control and will readily accept a third party into their love lives, providing that they get to choose the girl.Meet Jovia Davis, who admits that she's "just keeping it real", by introducing her best friend to her relationship
"My best friend and I vowed that if our spouses became [bored] we would invite a third party into the bedroom," Davis said.

"Do I have a low self-esteem? Hell no! I am just keeping it real. He will cheat anyway because that's how humans are, therefore I am willing to get that girl for him."
Her justification? "If my boyfriend should cheat on me he cannot use the excuse of 'eating fish everyday', because I gave him another option. I am accustomed to seeing relationships fail as a result of unsatisfied sexual needs, so what better person to spice up my life than my BFF?"
Sex therapist Dr Sidney McGill doesn't think low self-esteem is the reason why a woman would choose 'the other woman'.
"It may be a situation where both partners feel bored in a relationship and see the need for thrill and variety," McGill said. "The female has a close friend so she invites her for a little bedroom excitement."

MCGILL... feelings of jealousy and betrayal may come into play

The doctor said while a man's fantasy may be fulfilled -- as a lot of men have dreams about having threesomes -- inviting a third party into the bedroom could make a relationship more complicated if there is no trust.
"Feelings of jealousy and betrayal may come into play as she sees her partner getting intimate with someone else and if the third person involved is a friend and not a stranger, the friendship could be effectively ruined," Dr McGill said.
But Davis said her decision was also partly selfish, as she wants to experiment too.
"I often return the favour in her bedroom but my boyfriend is the jealous and selfish type so he is unaware of my doings," she said. "We have been together since I was a teenager so I can practically close my eyes and tell what his next move will be beneath the sheets. I have to admit that there are times when I get bored and my body is desirous of a change so that's where my BFF comes in."CARPENTER... there is a high possibility that a [woman like that] has a very high self-esteem and is pretty confident about her body

Clinical sexologist Dr Karen Carpenter lists as a type of confidence, that trait that allows women like Davis to be cool with introducing, without guilt, another woman into their bedrooms.

"There is a high possibility that a [woman like that] has a very high self-esteem and is pretty confident about her body," Dr Carpenter said. "She's confident enough to trust that her partner and her will maintain a healthy relationship after such act. It may just be a case of where she and her spouse decides to experiment or she just wants to satisfy her man's curiosity of being with two women simultaneously as that is the sexual fantasy of most men."
McGill, on the other hand, warns that if the couple doesn't enter such an arrangement with trust and understanding, "Sex may no longer be a emotional but a physical experience and that should not be".

"Although I try to look the other way, there are disadvantages staring me in the face," Davis admitted. "One is that he hardly ever wants just me anymore -- my friend has to be present or participating. If she is not available in the flesh he wants her to listen via the telephone to us. Of course I raise the issue, but he blows me off claiming that it's just for fun and excitement and I should enjoy our special moments together. I am now wondering if I should give him other options like changing our third partner. I really wonder what his reaction would be if I should invite in another man into our bedroom fun," she laughed.

The men say...
What do men think of such an arrangement? Is it the ultimate fantasy, and would he respect you after? Here's how a few men answered that question:

Rowe Henry, 37:
I would respect her more. I love my woman dearly but she has friends that I would want to get with. I wouldn't want a relationship and I am man enough not to creep with her but it's every man's fantasy to have a threesome so if my lady suggested another female for us to do it with she would be the boss. I do hope she is reading my comment now and will act accordingly.

Dane Grant, 26:
Of course I would respect my woman if she invites a girl into our bedroom. As a matter of fact, I would love her more if she invited more than one of her female friends. I would be overjoyed!

Raphael Ewin, 20:
I would respect my girl even more. I would feel that I am deeply appreciated by her if she should go all the way to invite another girl into our bed to spice up our lives. After all sharing is caring, don't?

Perk Watkins:
I would respect my girl as it's most men's -- including myself -- fantasy. It's not as simple and good as it sounds though, as feelings may get hurt along the way. Jealousy may also spring into action. Remember, there is no loving like new loving.


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