Long term conversation and e-lationships with persons who you may think you know do not necessarily means that the parties on the other end can be trusted as previous incidents similar to this has brought to bear one can check my previous entries on tips to do a hookup and fallout from such via Facebook on my sister blog Gay Jamaica Watch. There were also three cases of hookups via Adam for Adam that went terribly wrong as well in Portmore, Ocho Rios and Kingston now this case is the first as far as I can confirm but it shows a propensity for this sort of fallout to occur. My own experience has taught me this too but my strategy as I am from the old school is to change you agreed recognizing attire before the actual face to face meeting and I prefer to meet in a park or so where if it is suspicious I can beat a hasty retreat in terms of online e-lations as for my more gangster type meetings which I prefer I have my unique strategy which I won't reveal via this entry. Here are some tips (edited) I shared on an old post from GJW linked at the bottom of the post on Facebook outings:
- Decide on what clothing and colour or change colours previously agreed to if you are not sure of the individual you are going to meet
- Study your surroundings when there and get there early
- Find an open area such as a park at first preferably instead of a home or hotel so as to avoid any untoward attack and that too can avoid the need to get into the sack too quickly
- Plan your possible route(s) of escape if necessary
- Have a weapon of some sort or maze that can create a distraction then escape as quickly as possible
- Have a trusted friend accompany you if possible and have them away from the actual meeting spot but make sure they can see you
- Make a call if needed to the person(s) who followed you and keep the line open so they can hear your conversation and call for help elsewhere if needed
- If possible and where necessary have this TRUSTED third party/witness capture the moment via video or stream so as to make sure it is an authentic meeting/hookup
With the increased online presence of younger gay and bisexual Jamaican men in particular they have been making use of the covert identities it can allow persons to operate under but that same covertness can hide lurkers who have ulterior motives as this case has brought to bear. Some of the activities associated with this case are to ghastly to present here and I will not attempt to upset you my readers but suffice it to say there were the following:
1) Penile activity involving forced oral sex on the part of the victim on all four perpetrators
2) The illusion of the victim going to meet one person but ended up being set upon by three other persons unannounced
3) The four perpetrators (including the persons who lured the victim to the entrapment) used typical Jamaican anti homosexual terms to launch their attack on their victim but ended up forcing him to perform related activities
4) The perpetrators reportedly recorded sections of the abuse and has threatened the life of the victim who is in his late twenties
5) The men robbed the victim of his Blackberry, cash and jewelry
Fortunately he did not disclose his whereabouts or where he resides directly so no immediate harm could or should befall him post this attack however he would be wise to be circumspect when travelling just in case. He is said to be in calm spirits given the ordeal and thankfully there was no penetrative activity to create any major physiological damage but mentally I am certain though showing signs of calm on the outside he must be reeling from the fact that he never bargained for this to happen.
A similar robbery occurred last year (barring the sexual assault bit) as well of a male teacher whose BB was also stolen and a blackmail attempt was carried out where the perpetrators demanded $150,000 or else an erotic video of the phone's former owner was the dangling carrot in this matter which was similar to any assault as it was personal assault, it took months for him via a professional counselor along with family and friends to get him just to talk about it and move on as literally every car horn would make him go crazy fearing the men were coming for him.
For months on end the gentleman was stalked. (thanks to the gentlemen in these cases for allowing me to share aspects of the sensitive information)
I can give countless scenarios but the point is that we have weird community challenges out there for MSM and to think the whole homophobic psyche presented itself yet the men carried out this act with full erections suggest we have some serious psychiatric concerns here. Is this similar to the male rape that takes place in prisons where psychological control is the motivator with overtones of macho-ism or machismo and sex is used to belittle or imprison the victim? Bearing in mind this was a consensual up to when the visit to the space where the Adam4Adam profile owner had set up this meeting and invited his guest turned victim was joined by unannounced company.
The notion as well of gay men having more material wealth thus they are ripe for the picking seems to be included in this case as the conversations surrounding the ordeal tended towards what the victim supposedly had on hi persons of value included his bank cards which were demanded. This kind of gay on gay violence and extortion in my view is becoming an issue as other such cases though involving ill gotten gains via the alleged lotto scamming ring have also seen similar demands placed on suspected scammers who it is thought still have wealth even after the legislation has been passed recently to clamp down on the practice. A car and other electrical items were reported stolen from a house of a prominent queen just two months ago which have many persons concerned despite her brothers and other male relatives being protective of her but at the time of the heist no one was home which many speculated the house was being watched and was targeted.
All in all the main point of this case though is for persons to be very aware be they males or females as sexual assault is not a respecter of persons. In 2010 it was on this blog also I carried an entry on a rape ring that was eventually smashed in St Catherine and parts of Clarendon and while the victims were female they were "lured" to a now defunct Rainbowvibes site via a profile proporting to be owned by a female, a long standing conversation ensued both on the site's chatbox as well as on other chat platforms such as the now defunct MSN Chat where I was privy to the automatically saved exchanges by the one of the women who was smart enough to do so by adjusting her settings to save interactions. All this trust building led to a meeting which in the end led to the trap that was set where two women were sexually assaulted in the St. Catherine area, the case fizzled in court as one of the accused did not follow up on her report although the identification parade nabbed the main suspect, he got 29 years in total as previous charges on which he was on bail caught up with him. One of the challenges in tracking such crimes is that lesbians and bisexual women who fall prey to this scourge continue to under-report their issues as they feel for the most part the male dominated LGBT or GLBT entities will not address their needs. Also see the "Corrective Rape" tab below this post for all previous entries on the matter thus far as documented on this blog. I surmise that there are similar unreported cases in male committed assaults on other males too, we may never have a true handle on these matters even the more formal systems for that matter.
Keeping our friend in my prayers and hope he is able to rebuild quickly and move on learning from this episode and is able to educate others on navigating social media and possible dangers.
also see: Facebook unintentional outings to family members and Another young gay man is outed via Facebook from Gay Jamaica Watch. There are several unconfirmed reports of other challenges, outings and even forced evictions caused by or regarding navigating social media such as Facebook most persons simply absorb the ordeal as a mistake and move on keeping it secret as it were for fear of ridicule by others and also a feeling that their issue won't be addressed by the powers that be.
Be vigilant be safe
Peace and tolerance