Oral sex between men ended up becoming the broker for a truce of sorts that faithful evening and a subsequent impromptu AIDS 101 to include anal health (fleet & such) and hygiene how tos as practiced by us as gay/bi men. For some reason that old HIV is a gay disease mantra found its way into the discussion as if to conclude it is automatic with anal sex especially without a condom. Those courses helped to sedate the abhorrence by some of the women especially the more butch identified ones and some studs. The present social media thread seems to have the same variables as the old perceptions arose as talking points in the commentary which grew into an all out debate where the untidiness perception was clearly expressed as persons claimed there would be faecal matter in the mix unbeknownst or unaware of the availability of anal health products so readily on the market these days and despite buggery being illegal. The typical abhorrence laden colloquial question ‘....how man fi a walla in shit pit...?’ (How are men to have untidy faecal exposing anal sex?) anti gay sentiments came up as a reason for opposing the act between men which was interesting to watch as to me it borders on a kind of internalized homophobia within the LGBT populations.
A brief intervention by an obviously more informed woman in the group did help to sedate the outrage or abhorrence by the opposers to the sex of it but ironically some of the same opposers said the site of a man dominating another man looks somewhat interesting; the word ‘hot’ kept creeping into the mix and then I remembered similar comments being made at the aforementioned meetings involving SGL women. I wonder if the attraction is driven by the perceived strength factor in the dominance of the ‘top’ or ‘sub’
The hypermasculine dynamic versus the more docile or sub/passive partner seems to be an almost aphrodisiac for some or is it just because it is sex involving same sex partners and the women are also same sex attracted there is a comparison or connection to the act as a way of confirmation of who one is in terms of sexual orientation? It is hard to measure in terms of SGL sub groups who prefers gay male porn more, butch identified women or studs and that old feud between the two that lingers even in the newer generations. I will declare further interest in this topic as I have had an experimental group sex of sorts several years ago when I was much more adventurous with four males including myself and two women one butch the other a stud and both who use strap-ons. The turn on for the butch woman who did not identify as bisexual was that she gets a kick out of seeing her sub partner in immense pleasure as evidenced for her in audible sounds as she drives home usually in a foot on shoulder position which imposes her dominance psychologically; a similar sentiment expressed by transmen who use strap ons pre-operatively; the aphrodisiac is the domination component of the act which in both groups leads to intense and sometimes multiple orgasms. The group action I was in the stud woman had a distinct advantage as she wore a unique penile strapper device with a specially made ending at the testicular base that vibrates used with batteries that would stimulate her clitoris in the process thus making the act even more pleasurable for her while the action of the squatting action of her sub partner as she prefers it also aids in arriving at multiple orgasms.
The availability of gay male porn online especially African American and indeed Jamaican porn from Jamdownproductions in particular who specialises in hyper-masculine models/actors who play both dominant and sub roles did not go unnoticed as many said the watch and are amazed at the act; some said they would try to stomach watching scenes with one person remarking that the sex was ‘clean’ some persons thought that there had to be a distinct emphasis on roles and the corresponding look of the participants; in other words the ‘top’ should be all man and hypermasculine projecting strength versus the sub or passive partner who is less so or effeminate even in sexual sounds to emphasize submission. Upon seeing two of the same archetypes switching roles seems fascinating for some as it blurs the lines or stereotypes of gay male sex. This reminds me of the long held strong rejection of two butches or two studs involved in sex; that too was raised in years passed at the aforementioned meetings and in most instances had to be quickly differed so as to diffuse heated debates with persons almost coming to blows. The hot topics Fridays at the now defunct Oasis Couture Elements lymes had one such episode when the evening’s subject was bisexuality and short of calling the police the thing descended into a shouting match with hardened positions.
Could it be that the very site of sexual activity does something to us overall? After all the experts tell us that such experiences in real time are burnt more permanently to the brain than possibly anything else; this could be the driver for the attraction and at the same time rejection tacitly of gay male porn by SGL women. Rejection is an aphrodisiac I suppose. After all the porn industry has thrived on lesbian typed porn for decades and even went as far as the spike in so called ‘she male’ porn as well during the eighties when the transition was made from the dominant Caucasian gay porn on the global market to the growing and now popular Black, Latino or Blatino gay porn now as most of the ‘she-male’ actors were.
None of the numerous women in the social media thread openly suggested they would try the aforementioned groupie I was involved in; I guess that would be a stretch for some and the anti male sentiments expressed sexually speaking by some SGL women I guess would also influence that although the interest would be a dominant role by her instead of the other way around. Bearing in mind that most of the members of the group where this thread was located are Jamaicans.
Sexuality is a marvellous thing.
Peace & tolerance