10 men to avoid list for women slams metrosexuality

A list as prepared by Nadine Wilson of the Jamaica Observer's "All Woman" feature slams metrosexuality in men and advises that women should avoid such men. Is this a backlash of sorts of the continued metrosexual revolution in Jamaica where men have become so vain for want of a better word in appearances and have taken on tabooed practice to enhance if not over exaggerate their appearance. Bleaching and tight/close fitted pencil foot made pants are in, of course those were once vilified under pain of death or a proper beating from a mob as punishment if one broke the rule.

FOR some women, the journey to finding Mr Right is so tedious, that some, out of pure frustration, just settle for the first guy who comes along. But no matter how desperate you become, there are some guys that you'd best be warned to stay away from. While they might be okay to date and have as friends, you are practically setting yourself up for disaster if you choose to make husbands out of them.

Certainly leading the metrosexual charge is non other than former skin bleaching opponent and self described teacher "teacha Addi" Vybz Kartel (photo) men everywhere now have either totally mimicked his look or have burrowed and improved upon them so much so that the previous stereotypes on male homosexuals have been shattered and maybe new ones are being written as we look on as history unfolds before us.

have a read of Miss Wilson's list and see if it makes sense, the metrosexual adage is number 5 on the list:

10 Men to avoid

1. The man who refuses to grow up. He seems more compatible with your seven- year-old than with you. Yes, his boyish charm is very appealing, but how does that compensate for the fact that he is perpetually unemployed and only spends money on video games, pizza and beer? If he is constantly conning you out of your rent money which he uses to pay for video games, how do you suppose he will handle paying mortgage and utility bills when you decide to start life together.

2. The man who won't be fruitful and multiply. If a man tells you from the onset that he does not want to get married or have children, do not start a debate, just move on. His statements are not meant to challenge you to be the one woman who can change his mind. If you decide to move on with him, you should do so with a clear understanding that you probably won't ever get a ring or get your 2.5 kids.

3. The man who is damaged. His sad story of his ex's betrayal 10 years ago is so touching that it pulls you in. But even after a few more dates, the main topic during romantic evenings out is the compromising position he saw his girlfriend and best friend in. If you stick around for another year, you'll come to find out that he has already committed himself to not caring about anyone ever again.

4. The green-eyed monster. He has an issue with the way you dress because it is too revealing; he has a problem with you smiling with your male co-worker and he doesn't like your family because he believes they are a bit too nosy. Don't even go any further with him, just move on.

5. The metrosexual. He spends more time fluffing his hair and keeping his skin supple than you do, and you can't help but feel ugly standing next to him on the social scene. He is always impeccably dressed and most of your arguments so far have been about him taking over the mirror and taking up too much space on the bathroom vanity.

6. The commitment-phobe. He already has six children by six different women. His disappearing acts remind you so much of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde — today he is here and tomorrow he just conveniently disappears. He shows no intention of introducing you to his friends and family and refers to you as his "fling".

7. The one who's already taken. Do you want to be a mistress or a wife? If he is still sharing a bed and breakfast with his wife, then it means that his love is already invested elsewhere. He will probably say that he is getting a divorce, but if you decide to go forward with him, prepare for the possibility of that divorce never coming through. You could save yourself a lot of hurt by just finding someone who's available.

8. The mama's boy. Every other sentence for him starts with "I like my mama's..." and he takes issue with how you wash, cook and clean because you do not do it like his mama. He talks to his mother several times a day, but when it comes to calling you, he doesn't have any credit. It seems as though there is only one woman for him, and it's certainly not you.

9. The bad boy. The fact that he breaks all the rules and is recklessly dangerous might at first thrill you, but after a while it is bound to wear you down. If you decide to make life with him, prepare for many visits to the courthouse or worse yet, living like a fugitive. You might be able to tame him, but what if you aren't, are you prepared to communicate with him through a jail cell?

10. The one with the wandering eye. A leopard can't change its spots and neither can you change the behaviour of a cheater. If he is the type who flirts with girls or checks out the waitress in your presence, that is all the more reason to believe that he cannot help himself.


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